Core Elements of Self Coaching

  

  

The Core Elements of Self Coaching

After 30 yrs. of experience, I have developed self coaching methods that work in a variety goal seeking arenas, whether in weight loss, sobriety, mastering writer’s block, procrastination and a host of other personal or business goals.

What is Self coaching

Here  are the components of self coaching: 

1. Taking the self as an object…seeing the self as an object that can be changed and  improved upon;  take the self as an object that can be acted upon and improved by your own intention. 

2. Giving your self encouragement; Listening to the admonitions of the Inner Guide and taking them seriously. (I take the Inner Guide to be equivalent to conscience, superego, or master self.) It helps as well to go back to review past accomplishments to show your self ‘you can do it’.

3. Planning and executing strategies that help you attain personalized goals 

4. Using self monitoring methods to record progress towards goals aka activity tracking; 4a. Using pre commitment techniques. (http://bit.ly/T0hpst)

 5. Assessing what works, what does not in striving efforts   6. Provide or seek out information that helps improving skills towards goal achievement. …ideas or behaviors that need to be mastered, improved upon and refined.

7. Development of intrinsic motivation. Goals that are pursued to fulfill intrinsic values are important as they are integrated into an individual’s self-concept; these are called self-concordant goals. Self-concordant goals fulfill basic needs and are aligned with an individual's true self values.  Because these goals have personal meaning to an individual and reflect an individual's self-identity, self-concordant goals are more likely to receive sustained effort over time.

Review

Take your self as an object to be changed and improved

Let your better self lead you

Listen and submit to the Inner Guide

Use the evidenced based strategies: record keeping, pre  commitment, role      models, etc.

Refer back to past accomplishments to reinforce confidence

Set up accountability partners

Get feedback from real world to correct false beliefs

Get information to refine your tools, improve, and fine tune your skills

Develop goals that are in accordance with central values and ideals to ensure intrinsic motivation. This will ensure sustained effort over time.

Even following all these guidelines, fall backs are inevitable. It is best to have self compassion in response although I have found that guilt and self criticism help get you back on the straight and narrow.

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